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We all know what it's like to be annoyed by little things that our husband, wife or partner does ? leaving the cap off the toothpaste tube, leaving the toilet lid up, leaving dirty clothes on the floor ? and we know how easily these little grievances of everyday life can spin out of control. In this brilliant new book the sociologist Jean-Claude Kaufmann shows us how and why sparks can suddenly fly even in the most well-adjusted couples. They see themselves as being in total harmony but they are mistaken! The clash between their uniquely individual attitudes to life rumbles on in silence until suddenly erupting in emotional outbursts each time an object or an attitude reveals for the thousandth time the unbearable and incomprehensible otherness of the partner. When this occurs, a whole panoply of tactics is deployed, ranging from the combative (secret acts of revenge) through the neutral (sulking) to the subtly loving. But these stormy episodes within relationships can have a happy ending, for it is through learning to overcome these irritations and aggravations that love is ultimately strengthened.
"Kaufmann is a wise and clever microsociologist, inspired by ErvingGoffman, by fashion magazines, and by kittenish and cougarishwomen. He is the voice of the annoyed, the vexed, the fearful, andthe comforted."
Contemporary Sociology
"Living in an increasingly detraditionalised world opens upglorious new opportunities for individual autonomy andself-realisation. It also creates unprecedented pressures onlong-term relationships. Kaufmann
brilliantly captures this paradox of life in late modernity,analysing the seemingly limitless sources of mutual irritation ineveryday life, as well as spouses' inventive revenge andpeacemaking tactics."
Véronique Mottier, Jesus College, Cambridge &University of Lausanne
"Jean-Claude Kaufman's Gripes is one of those rare booksthat brings into focus a seemingly unimportant fact of life.Irritation and the slow abrasive effect of the gripes it causes aresands that grind down the gears of relationships. Behavioralscientists and self-help advisers make so much of the powerfulpassions. Kaufman brilliantly illuminates the simpler forces ofsocial disruption."
Charles C. Lemert, author of Muhammad Ali: Trickster in theCulture of Irony
Contemporary Sociology
"Living in an increasingly detraditionalised world opens upglorious new opportunities for individual autonomy andself-realisation. It also creates unprecedented pressures onlong-term relationships. Kaufmann
brilliantly captures this paradox of life in late modernity,analysing the seemingly limitless sources of mutual irritation ineveryday life, as well as spouses' inventive revenge andpeacemaking tactics."
Véronique Mottier, Jesus College, Cambridge &University of Lausanne
"Jean-Claude Kaufman's Gripes is one of those rare booksthat brings into focus a seemingly unimportant fact of life.Irritation and the slow abrasive effect of the gripes it causes aresands that grind down the gears of relationships. Behavioralscientists and self-help advisers make so much of the powerfulpassions. Kaufman brilliantly illuminates the simpler forces ofsocial disruption."
Charles C. Lemert, author of Muhammad Ali: Trickster in theCulture of Irony