Dr. Laura Markham

Calm Parents, Happy Siblings

How to stop the fighting and raise friends for life

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Produktbeschreibung

Presents simple ways to cut through the squabbling and foster a loving, supportive bond between siblings, while giving each child the vital connection that he or she needs.

Produktdetails

• Verlag: Ebury Publishing
• Seitenzahl: 352
• Erscheinungstermin: 4. Juni 2015
• Englisch
• Abmessung: 215mm x 136mm x 30mm
• Gewicht: 356g
• ISBN-13: 9781785040252
• ISBN-10: 1785040251
• Artikelnr.: 42295853

Autorenporträt

Dr Laura Markham is a clinical psychologist, parenting coach and mother of two children. She has helped thousands of families worldwide with her relationship-based model of parenting. For more information visit www.ahaparenting.com

Inhaltsangabe

1. 1: Introduction
2.
* 1: If You're Welcoming a New Baby
* 2: If Your Children Are Constantly Fighting
3. 1: CALM PARENTING
4.
5. 1: How You Can Be a Calm Parent
6.
* 1: The Parenting Skills That Help You Become Calmer as a Parent
7. 2: How Calm Discipline Supports the Sibling Relationship
8.
* 1: Why Punishment and Permissiveness Cause More Sibling Fighting
* 2: Rethinking Discipline
* 3: Rethinking Time-outs
* 4: Rethinking Rewards
* 5: The Difference Between Consequences and Limits
* 6: What If Empathy Doesn't Work?
* 7: Preventive Maintenance
* 8: When Your Child Is Acting Out: Time-in
* 9: Helping Kids with Big Emotions: Scheduled Meltdowns
* 10: How to Help Each Child with Big Emotions When You Have More Than
One Upset Child
9. 3: What Causes Sibling Rivalry - And How Parents Can Make It Better
10.
* 1: Your Child's Point of View: That's Not a Friend, It's a
Replacement
* 2: Factors That Can Exacerbate Rivalry
* 3: The Power of Parents to Foster a Super Sibling Relationship
11. 2: PART TWO: TEACHING CALM
12.
13. 4: Coaching Kids to Communicate Feelings and Problem-solve
14.
* 1: Coaching Essential Emotional Intelligence Skills
* 2: Your New Role: Interpreter
* 3: Coaching Kids to Identify and Communicate Their Needs and Feelings
* 4: Coaching Kids to Set Limits with Each Other
* 5: Coaching Kids to Listen to Each Other
* 6: Coaching Kids to Problem-solve
* 7: Basic Negotiation Tools to Teach Kids
15. 5: When Problem-solving Fails: Teaching Conflict Resolution
16.
* 1: What About 'We Get Along' Shirts?
* 2: Why Fighting Is Essential to Teach Children Relationship Skills
* 3: How to Help Children Learn to Work It Out Themselves
* 4: Empowering Kids to Stand Up to Teasing
* 5: Mean Words
* 6: When Your Child Says He Hates His Sibling
* 7: Intervening in a Sibling Fight: The Basics
* 8: Should You Punish Your Child for Aggression?
* 9: When Your Toddler Is the Aggressor Against Your Older Child
* 10: Coaching Kids to Handle Aggression from Younger Siblings
* 11: How to Stop Repeated Aggression
* 12: Teaching Skills: Intervening in a Sibling Fight
* 13: Helping Kids Make Repairs After a Fight, Instead of Forced
Apologies
17. 6: Why Can't They Just Share? Why Kids Fight Over Possessions
18.
* 1: Rethinking Sharing: A Radical Solution
* 2: Self-regulated Turns: What Children Learn
* 3: Coaching Kids as They Wait for Their Turn
19. 7: Easing the Competition
20.
* 1: 'It's Not Fair!'
* 2: Never Compare
* 3: Resist Labelling
* 4: How to Celebrate Each Child Without Fuelling Competition
* 5: Who Gets to Push the Lift Button?
* 6: How to Ensure You Don't Unwittingly Foster Competition
* 7: Helping Kids with Competitive Feelings
* 8: Birth Order and Competition
* 9: What If You Prefer One Child?
21. 8: Tools to Prevent Rivalry and Nurture Bonding
22.
* 1: Expect Your Children to Value Each Other
* 2: Family Routines That Foster Sibling Bonding
* 3: Family Rules and Mottos That Support Sibling Closeness
* 4: How to Create More Positive Interactions Between Your Children
* 5: Strategies to Create a Sibling Team
* 6: Shifting Alliances: How to Keep Kids from Ganging Up on Each Other
* 7: Why Rough and Tumble Reduces Sibling Rivalry
* 8: Why Not Tickling?
* 9: When Kids Share a Room
* 10: When One Child Has a Friend Over
* 11: Family Meetings: The Resource You'll Be So Glad You Discovered
23. 3: PART THREE: BEFORE THE NEW BABY AND THROUGH THE FIRST YEAR
24.
25. 9: Before the Baby Arrives: Creating a Warm Welcome
26.
* 1: Telling Your Child About the New Sibling
* 2: Twelve Ways to Help Your Kids Begin Bonding
* 3: During Your Pregnancy
* 4: Be Sure Your Child Can Rely on Both Parents
* 5: Ten Tips to Support Your Child Emotionally as He Moves Towards
Becoming a Big Sibling
* 6: Weaning Versus Tandem Nursing
* 7: Preparing Your Child for the Separation During the Upcoming Birth
* 8: If You're Planning to Have Your Child at the Birth
* 9: Creating a Transition Book for Your Child
* 10: Making an Activity Box for Your Child
* 11: Work Through Your Own Emotions About Having a Second Child
* 12: Loving Each Child Best
27. 10: Getting Off to a Good Start: Birth and the First Few Months
28.
* 1: Introducing Your Child to the New Baby
* 2: The First Week: Settling In as a Family
* 3: How to Keep Your Child Occupied While You Feed the Baby
* 4: Helping Your Child with Her Mixed Emotions About the Baby
* 5: What About Those Overzealous Hugs?
* 6: Regression: When Your Child Goes Backwards
* 7: Managing Naptime and Bedtime with More Than One Child
* 8: The Early Months: The New Normal
* 9: When Your Child Has a Hard Time Adjusting
* 10: Daily Practices to Stay Connected to Your Child Now That He Has
to Share You
* 11: Using Games to Help Your Child with Jealousy
* 12: Reading Books to Your Child About Becoming a Big Sib
* 13: Nine Tips to Foster a Great Relationship Between Your Children
Right from the Start
29. 11: Building a Positive Foundation When the Baby Begins to Crawl
30.
* 1: Ten Tips to Maintain a Peaceful Home as Baby Moves Towards
Toddlerhood
* 2: Dividing Your Time
* 3: How to Help Your Older Child Solve His Problems with the Little
One
* 4: What to Say When Your Child Is Jealous of the Baby
* 5: What to Do About Toy Grabbing
* 6: When Your Child Is Aggressive Towards the Baby
* 7: What If the Aggressor Is Too Young to Understand?
* 8: What If It's the Baby Who's Aggressive?
* 9: Games to Help Your Children Bond with the Baby
31. 12: Final Note: Choose Love
32. 13: Acknowledgements
33. 14: Notes
34. 15: Index