Resilient Relationships Techniques for Surviving Hyper-individualism, Social Isolation, and a Mental Health Crisis

"All three parts of the book offer insights for clinicians, researchers, and people interested in understanding and helping couples achieve relationship quality and longevity. Although the book is written with some mental health professional jargon, the way it is written still affords lay readers and real-life couples valuable wisdom."

Journal of Marital and Family Therapy

"Christian and Caroline Heim have written a wise and valuable book on how to make marriages last. Their insights are strongly grounded in evidence, including interviews with hundreds of individuals and special emphasis on couples who remain happy together after 40 years of marriage. In this era of longer lives and shorter relationships, how to achieve a resilient romantic relationship is a vital key to happiness, and this book offers plenty of specific and helpful advice. Anyone looking for a long-lasting relationship will find something useful in these pages."

Roy Baumeister, Professor, President of International Positive Psychology Association, Harvard University

"As a practicing marriage and family therapist, I found myself rolling up my sleeves and warming up my creative energies by perusing the suggested techniques in the final section of this book. There is some gold to be found here. I found Heim and Heim's collection of techniques to be versatile and transtheoretical. ... The authors effectively illustrate the impact of hyper-individualism on relationships and emphasize the importance of attachment, altruism, and connection in fostering resilient partnerships. Their research findings, particularly the "glue-secrets" of long-lasting couples, align well with established theories in couples therapy and offer both validation and inspiration for couples and therapists alike."

Journal of Family Theory and Review

"Evidence-based and practical, the Heims provide time-tested advice and perspectives on long term relationships that can augment couples therapy or act as a stand-alone starting place for couples interested in strengthening their relationship. With so much emphasis in modern psychotherapy on individuals doing "what is best" for themselves this is a refreshing reminder that healthy love relationships require give and take and that feeding the relationship can also be the thing that contributes, in large measure, to what makes an individual happy and healthy."

Steven M. Harris, Ph.D., LMFT, Past Editor - Journal of Marital and Family Therapy