Ben Furman

eBook, PDF

The Solution-focused Parent (eBook, PDF)

How to Help Children Conquer Challenges by Learning Skills

Beschreibung

This practical book presents readers with a skills-based, child rearing approach to supporting a child's growth and helping them overcome both minor and major developmental challenges.

In contrast to conventional approaches to child psychology, this innovative approach focuses on developing children's abilities rather than concentrating on and trying to fix their "problems." Additionally, instead of blaming caretakers for their child's challenges, the skills approach offers them the keys with which they can coach and motivate their children to overcome challenges by learning required skills. Readers will find it easy to grasp the idea of the skills mindset through the book's wealth of eye-opening stories, case examples, and the author's personal insights as a psychotherapist, parent, and creator of the Kids'Skills method. Clear, detailed instructions will help readers immediately put the ideas into everyday practice with their own children and families.

This book is a must-have, hope-instilling toolbox for anyone involved in the task of raising a child. Parents, grandparents, teachers, mental health professionals, and more will find this a valuable resource in ensuring the future success of the children in their lives.

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Autor

Ben Furman, is a renowned Finnish psychiatrist, author, and teacher of solution-focused therapy and coaching. He founded the Helsinki Brief Therapy Institute in 1986 together with his long-time colleague, Tapani Ahola, where he and his team have provided training in solution-focused psychology for professionals ever since.

Produktdetails

• Verlag: Taylor & Francis eBooks
• Seitenzahl: 194
• Erscheinungstermin: 5. Dezember 2023
• Englisch
• ISBN-13: 9781003800712
• Artikelnr.: 69095253

Rezensionen

'Ben Furman has done it again - created a step-by-step guide through the tougher regions of effective parenting. The concept is elegantly simple: for every challenge that faces a child or young person, whether it be difficulty sleeping, temper tantrums or dealing with life's difficulties, there will be a skill that the child can learn and with this skill overcome the challenge. The idea is as practical as it is elegant but to follow it through is not so easy. What Dr Furman does in this book is teach parents the skill they need to identify the skills their children need in order to live more happy and fulfilling lives. These skills are not obvious and need considerable negotiation between the child and concerned adults: the child who curses

learns the "teddy bear" skill while another, prone to meltdowns, develops the "helping hand" skill. The key is not to stop the unwanted behaviour but to replace it with something new. This may take time, there is no claim to have a 'magic bullet', but it focuses attention away from the problem ("Don't do that!") to a more positive future ("Remember your new skill!") This focus on what is desired rather than on unwanted behaviours is less stressful and more hopeful for children and parents alike and anything that makes life easier is to be welcomed! What also makes life easier is the contents page of the book where Dr Furman's 50+ detailed examples make finding the page that fits your child very easy: Nightmares 88, Screen time 97, Shyness, 101 and so on; almost everything covered and as no child will have more than a few of these challenges it is a good book to share with friends whose children also need new skills.'

Chris Iveson, co-founder of BRIEF London, one of the world's leading centres for Solution Focused training

'A child rearing guide - what a scary term. Fortunately, for Ben Furman this new book isn't a child rearing guide, but rather a book that provides ideas for skills-based parenting from an experienced teacher and author. The book is good, as one might expect. It concretely covers, among other things, picky eating, low self-esteem, attention difficulties, tantrums, bullying, anxiety, selective mutism, violence, and divorce. The book also discusses skill-based education in schools and how to improve collaboration with students and parents. There is hardly anyone who would not benefit from this book, even if they are not a parent, grandparent, or teacher. And in case you should find Furman's gentle and explanatory style somewhat fluffy or unduly optimistic, don't be alarmed. There is enough anxiety and pessimism around to warrant the ideas of Dr Ben Furman.'

Heli Mustonen, freelance journalist, Finland