Pillow Talk & Pretty Lies: Why Some People Only Love You When There's an Occasion to Celebrate (eBook, ePUB)
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The Illusion of Occasion-Based AffectionFor many, love feels most tangible when there's an event, a special day, or a milestone to commemorate. Whether it's a birthday, an anniversary, or a holiday, some people's affection seems to bloom only when the calendar dictates it's time to celebrate. On these days, they show up in full force, offering grand gestures, flattering words, and thoughtful gifts. But once the candles are blown out and the celebrations fade, their interest in you seems to vanish, leaving you wondering if the love was ever real.The Empty Charade of "Occasion-Only" LoveFor thos...
The Illusion of Occasion-Based Affection
For many, love feels most tangible when there's an event, a special day, or a milestone to commemorate. Whether it's a birthday, an anniversary, or a holiday, some people's affection seems to bloom only when the calendar dictates it's time to celebrate. On these days, they show up in full force, offering grand gestures, flattering words, and thoughtful gifts. But once the candles are blown out and the celebrations fade, their interest in you seems to vanish, leaving you wondering if the love was ever real.
The Empty Charade of "Occasion-Only" Love
For those stuck in these relationships, it often feels like a performancea grand show played out for an audience that never sticks around once the curtain falls. The special day is an excuse for these individuals to display affection, to publicly declare how much they care, and to bask in the recognition of their seemingly loving behavior. But when the confetti settles, so does the relationship. The intimacy evaporates, leaving behind a hushed silence that begs the question: was I ever truly loved, or was I simply part of the act?
The Trap of Pretty Lies
The love given on these occasions is often accompanied by beautifully packaged lies. The promises of affection and loyalty feel genuine in the moment, but once the event concludes, those words seem to fade into thin air. Some of these people don't realize that the connection they offer is conditional, that they can only fully commit when there's something to celebrate. They convince themselves that this is how relationships should workbig moments deserve big gesturesbut when those big moments aren't present, they disappear. You're left holding onto the lies that were once dressed up as truth.
How the Cycle Perpetuates
The pattern repeats itself over time, with the cycle of affection, followed by neglect, becoming all too predictable. Each special occasion becomes a glimmer of hope that perhaps this time things will be different, that this time the affection will stick beyond the event. However, as soon as the day ends, you're back to the same emotional void you were in before. The repetitive nature of this cycle not only wears on your patience, but it also chips away at your belief in what true love really looks like.
Recognizing the Pattern: When to Walk Away
The first step toward breaking free from this type of relationship is recognizing the pattern. When love is only given in flashes, tied to special days, and doesn't carry through into the day-to-day, it's essential to evaluate what you're really getting from the relationship. Is the affection genuine, or is it just a temporary show? True love doesn't wait for the right time or the perfect occasionit exists every day, regardless of the calendar.
The Impact on Self-Worth
Being caught in the cycle of loving someone who only seems to care during celebratory moments can deeply affect your sense of self-worth. When affection feels conditional, it forces you to question your value outside of those specific occasions. The rest of the year, you may feel invisible or insignificant, as though your worth is reduced to a token of celebration rather than a constant presence in someone's life. Over time, this kind of emotional inconsistency leads to confusion, frustration, and a distorted sense of what love should look like.
When affection is only shown on special days, the relationship remains shallow, with no room for the growth that comes from true intimacy. Learning to identify the difference between occasional love and enduring love will help you stop settling for less and start building the kind of relationship you deserveone where love doesn't need a reason to exist.
For many, love feels most tangible when there's an event, a special day, or a milestone to commemorate. Whether it's a birthday, an anniversary, or a holiday, some people's affection seems to bloom only when the calendar dictates it's time to celebrate. On these days, they show up in full force, offering grand gestures, flattering words, and thoughtful gifts. But once the candles are blown out and the celebrations fade, their interest in you seems to vanish, leaving you wondering if the love was ever real.
The Empty Charade of "Occasion-Only" Love
For those stuck in these relationships, it often feels like a performancea grand show played out for an audience that never sticks around once the curtain falls. The special day is an excuse for these individuals to display affection, to publicly declare how much they care, and to bask in the recognition of their seemingly loving behavior. But when the confetti settles, so does the relationship. The intimacy evaporates, leaving behind a hushed silence that begs the question: was I ever truly loved, or was I simply part of the act?
The Trap of Pretty Lies
The love given on these occasions is often accompanied by beautifully packaged lies. The promises of affection and loyalty feel genuine in the moment, but once the event concludes, those words seem to fade into thin air. Some of these people don't realize that the connection they offer is conditional, that they can only fully commit when there's something to celebrate. They convince themselves that this is how relationships should workbig moments deserve big gesturesbut when those big moments aren't present, they disappear. You're left holding onto the lies that were once dressed up as truth.
How the Cycle Perpetuates
The pattern repeats itself over time, with the cycle of affection, followed by neglect, becoming all too predictable. Each special occasion becomes a glimmer of hope that perhaps this time things will be different, that this time the affection will stick beyond the event. However, as soon as the day ends, you're back to the same emotional void you were in before. The repetitive nature of this cycle not only wears on your patience, but it also chips away at your belief in what true love really looks like.
Recognizing the Pattern: When to Walk Away
The first step toward breaking free from this type of relationship is recognizing the pattern. When love is only given in flashes, tied to special days, and doesn't carry through into the day-to-day, it's essential to evaluate what you're really getting from the relationship. Is the affection genuine, or is it just a temporary show? True love doesn't wait for the right time or the perfect occasionit exists every day, regardless of the calendar.
The Impact on Self-Worth
Being caught in the cycle of loving someone who only seems to care during celebratory moments can deeply affect your sense of self-worth. When affection feels conditional, it forces you to question your value outside of those specific occasions. The rest of the year, you may feel invisible or insignificant, as though your worth is reduced to a token of celebration rather than a constant presence in someone's life. Over time, this kind of emotional inconsistency leads to confusion, frustration, and a distorted sense of what love should look like.
When affection is only shown on special days, the relationship remains shallow, with no room for the growth that comes from true intimacy. Learning to identify the difference between occasional love and enduring love will help you stop settling for less and start building the kind of relationship you deserveone where love doesn't need a reason to exist.
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