"The Dynamic Emotion Focused therapy of Susan Warshow spotlights advances in psychotherapy that bring new luster to the clinical work of both doyens and tyros. Clear, concise writing and illuminating transcripts sharpen the realization of practical principles. The author is an expert who will enliven the development of your expertise."
Jeffrey K. Zeig, Ph.D., The Milton H. Erickson Foundation
"Doing psychotherapy is a paradox. All day, every day, you are with people. And yet, when it comes to helping your client in the moment, you are utterly alone. A Therapist's Handbook to Dissolve Shame and Defense fills the void. Like a wise mentor, Susan Warren Warshow senses the challenges
you will face and steps in with sage advice."
Scott D. Miller,
Ph.D., Director, International Center for Clinical Excellence"If you are a therapist struggling personally and professionally in client sessions, read Susan Warren Warshow. She offers a practical guide with ample vignettes for clinicians who feel stuck yet have the courage to slow down and start making subtle, significant shifts to strengthen their skills."
Dr. Stan Tatkin,
Psy.D., MFT, author of Wired for Love and We Do"Every therapist faces the challenge of how to empathize with the wholeness of the patient: her longings, her anxiety, and the behaviors that prevent her from fulfilling her longings. In
A Therapist's Handbook to Dissolve Shame and Defense, Susan Warshow beautifully illustrates through numerous vignettes how to help patients face avoided feelings and move beyond anxiety and defenses that prevent them from pursuing their passions. For any therapist who wants to deepen their capacity for empathy, compassion, and deeper healing, this book is a must read."
Jon Frederickson,
MSW, faculty, Washington School of Psychiatry; Author of
Co-Creating Change, The Lies We Tell Ourselves, and Co-Creating Safety: Healing the Fragile Client"With wisdom and clarity, Susan Warshow provides key concepts to enable clinicians to work effectively with shame-both our own and that of our patients. Referring to shame as "the gatekeeper in therapy", she provides moving clinical vignettes to illustrate its powerful role in development, its relationship to anxiety, its protective signal function for survival. Rather than attacking shame, she teaches us how to guide patients in recognizing shame and to make use of the transformative power of compassion."
Pamela J. McCrory,
Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist PSY 12094; Assistant Clinical Professor, Department of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences, UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine; Co-Chair, Arts, Creativity and Culture Committee, Los Angeles County Psychological Association "Susan Warshow's book offers an essential contribution to psychotherapists and students in clinical settings, focusing on the centrality of shame in emotional suffering. She highlights psychotherapy elements that facilitate greater self-acceptance and social intimacy. Well-chosen client examples bring her conceptualizations to life and demonstrate the nuances of an attuned approach to working with shame and defense in psychotherapy.
Her honest personal sharing accents the book in a thought-provoking way, and her astute insights are free of unnecessary jargon.
A Therapist's Handbook to Dissolve Shame and Defense amplifies that shame is a gateway to emotional integration. Many authors theorize about the meaning of compassion. However, this book demonstrates what this profoundly important phenomenon looks like in actual therapeutic encounters.
A Therapist's Handbook to Dissolve Shame and Defense speaks more to being present, gently challenging, and leaning into the shame experiences that emerge not only in the client but also in the therapist. How the therapist meets that difficult emotion is key, and the overall premise is that one cannot be present to the shame in another if one cannot face those experiences within oneself. Her gift to therapists is to encourage authenticity, and she has generously offered her own processes as the conduit for showing the way."
Juliet Rohde-Brown,
Ph.D.; Chair, Depth Psychology: Integrative Therapy and Healing Practices Specialization, Pacifica Graduate Institute; Licensed Clinical Psychologist"Susan Warren Warshow's book is a must read for every clinician! The author's compassion shines through every page. Elegantly written in simple language, her personal style sinks under theory to reveal embodied exchanges within the nitty gritty of emotional healing. Warshow offers the wisdom and humility of a seasoned practitioner alongside the courage to reveal insecurities and vulnerabilities that inevitably emerge when working with deepest wounds to the self."
Terry Marks-Tarlow,
Ph.D.; Private practice in Santa Monica, California; Conducts workshops and trainings internationally; Author of A Fractal Epistemology for a Scientific Psychology (2020, Cambridge Scholars), Play & Creativity in Psychotherapy (2017), Awakening Clinical Intuition (2014, Norton), and Clinical Intuition in Psychotherapy (2012, Norton) "Susan Warren Warshow has written a valuable book to guide therapists deeper into the life-changing alliance with their clients that fosters enthusiasm and real growth for both participants. Covering all the important bases of resistance, anxiety, guilt, shame, and especially compassion, Warshow offers detailed process descriptions of her Dynamic Emotion Focused Therapy (DEFT), providing succinct in-session transcripts of meaningful therapeutic exchanges and outcomes.
A Therapist's Handbook to Dissolve Shame and Defense is an inspiring book to read, to reflect on, and to savor the warmth and wisdom emanating from each page."
Stella Resnick,
Ph.D.; Author of Body-to-Body Intimacy: Transformation through Love, Sex, and Neurobiology (2019); Creator of the Embodied Relational Sex Therapy (ERST) training"
A Therapist's Handbook to Dissolve Shame and Defence: Master the Moment is clinical brilliance at its best. Essential components of excellent therapeutic communication skills are expertly described here, and unpacked with useful true-to-life clinical examples. Therapeutic exchanges highlight the use of effective thought empathy and feeling empathy, so essential for the therapeutic process, especially when interfacing with those who are exploring deeply hidden aspects of shame and remorse.
Warshow demonstrates how she shares her own feelings in a caring, honest, supportive, and fruitful way. Her many metaphorical examples underscore how the therapist can effectively nudge the client in assisting the change process while at the same time honouring and respecting the importance of gently and patiently moving forward at the client's pace.
A treasury of heartfelt approaches and interventions that transcend all theoretical schools of thought, this book is one that can be read over and over by both novice and seasoned professional alike, each time finding more value, and adding to one's ability to effectively master the clinical moment with skill, kindness, and warmth."
Karin S. Hart, PsyD; licensed psychologist; former assistant clinical professor, Department of Psychiatry and Biobehavioural Sciences, UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine
