"Barry and Emily McCarthy have authored a number of outstanding texts concerning human sexuality for the general public. Their latest book, Couple Sexuality After 60, offers a compassionate understanding of sexuality in aging couples. It offers sophisticated yet practical advice. I encourage anyone over 60 to purchase, enjoy, and contemplate the wisdom offered by this respected internationally respected clinician."
Robert Taylor Segraves, MD, PhD, Professor of Psychiatry Case Western Reserve University, Editor Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy
"Barry and Emily McCarthy have created yet another masterpiece! Skillfully guiding readers through the nuances of maintaining a satisfying sex life well into old
age, the McCarthys' steer professional and lay audiences alike through the myriad of misinformation, misunderstanding, and fallacies that haunt our views of sex and aging. Their writing style is clear and inviting. Their suggested exercises are thoughtful and practical. And their optimism regarding sex and aging is refreshing, wise, and sound. I know I will recommend this book to my aging patients, those with and without partners."
Daniel N. Watter, EdD, Past President, Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR)"This self-help book for seniors is the culmination of the authors' highly productive writing partnership. A long married couple, the McCarthys provide guidance that revolves around two models: Good Enough Sex and Female-Male Sexual Equity. These well explained themes and their variations are delivered in a conversational style inspiring readers to rethink their previous sexual patterns, accept their regrets over past errors, and get right to a better, variable, sensual, pleasurable life, with or without intercourse. Their messages are wise: do not give up on sexual behavior and keep discovering your capacities!"
Stephen B. Levine, MD,
author of Psychotherapeutic Approaches to Sexual Problems: An Essential Guide for Mental Health Professionals
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Couple Sexuality After 60 will surprise and enlighten readers of any age, but will prove most valuable to men and women hoping to enhance their sexual experience as they grow older. The McCarthys disprove many of the myths surrounding sex and aging. Even better, they offer their readers new perspectives, dismissing performance-oriented sex and embracing a realistic positive attitude towards couple sexuality in which 'intimate and erotic allies turn to each other and share pleasure.' Their focus on responsive desire, more genuine and human than the spontaneous desire associated with youth, is a highlight of the book."
Katharine Bethell, MSW,
author of An Essential Guide to Aging Well
"If you are 60 or older, and mourning the loss of youthful and effortless sex, take heart. What you will find in the pages of this book may upend all you have ever believed about sex. But then sex after 60 is different than the sex that came before, in ways that may be as unexpected as they are pleasurable. Written for couples to read together, this book promises to help older couples become intimate and erotic allies who turn towards each other to embrace a new and pleasurable sexuality."
Kathryn Hall, PhD,
Editor, Principles and Practice of Sex Therapy,
6th edition, Past President, Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR)"With Barry and Emily McCarthy's 16th book,
Couple Sexuality After 60, arrives added consensus that the sexuality writing team constitute a blooming 'national treasure.' Their immense gift to the nation is highlighted by their work's contrast with the dismal sexual culture it addresses.
The authors offer new perspectives on sexual cultural deficits in the US like double standards, ageism, abstinence-only sex education, LGBTQIA+phobia, high STI and sexual violence rates, sexual performance anxiety, reproductive injustice, devaluation of the erotic, and more. They also describe how to love well despite personally damaging national attitudes and policies.
The new book's insightful myth-bashing, concepts like 'good enough sex' and finding a sexual style, and helpful guidance on fostering desire and on appreciating differences, aims to shift attitudes and open hearts to greater mutuality and satisfaction.
If Barry and Emily's
Couple Sexuality After 60 were the only resource teens had for sex education, they would be well prepared for satisfying sexuality throughout their lives. Although this book
probably won't be marketed to teens, it will serve its intended audience well.
Baby boomers will spark to its directness and honesty, plain speaking usefulness, cutting edge knowledge, excellent selection of topics, no-nonsense elevation of sex as entitlement, peak experience, and relationship sustenance. They will love the inspiration to keep sexuality the important part of their lives it has always been for this generation.
A wise book and fun read for professionals and common readers alike."
Susan Stiritz,
Immediate Past President of AASECT, Associate Professor of Practice, Chair, Specialization in Sexual Health and Education, The Brown School, Washington University in St. Louis
