A psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of
complex parenting issues joins forces with a physician and
bestselling author to tackle one of the most disturbing and
misunderstood trends of our time -- peers replacing parents in the
lives of our children. Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer
orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to
look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong,
for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation
undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and
fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It
provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth
violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of
teenage gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in
Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta and Victoria, B.C. It is an
escalating trend that has never been adequately described or
contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes
self-evident -- as do the solutions. Hold On to Your Kids will
restore parenting to its natural intuitive basis and the
parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. The
concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On to
Your Kids will empower parents to satisfy their children's
inborn need to find direction by turning towards a source of
authority, contact and warmth. "Something has changed. One can
sense it, one can feel it, just not find the words for it. Children
are not quite the same as we remember being. They seem less likely
to take their cues from adults, less inclined to please those in
charge, less afraid of getting into trouble.Parenting, too, seems
to have changed. Our parents seemed more confident, more certain of
themselves and had more impact on us, for better or for worse. For
many, parenting does not feel natural. Adults through the ages have
complained about children being less respectful of the
Dr. Gordon Neufeld studierte an den Universitäten von Winnipeg und British Columbia/Kanada und promovierte dort 1975 im Bereich klinische Psychologie und Entwicklungspsychologie. Er lehrte fast 20 Jahre an der Universität von British Columbia und arbeitete mehrere Jahre in der Gerichtspsychologie, wo er auf gewalttätige junge Straftäter spezialisiert war.§Er verfügt außerdem über eine mehr als 30-jährige professionelle Erfahrung als Entwicklungs- und Klinikpsychologe in seiner Privatpraxis in Vancouver, Kanada. Dr. Gordon Neufeld ist sehr erfolgreich in seiner Privatpraxis und in der Forschung. Außerdem bietet er Workshops und Seminare an und schreibt Artikel und Bücher, die in Nordamerika sehr große Beachtung finden. Inhalt sind Schwierigkeiten und deren Lösungen, die sich für Kinder, Eltern und Pädagogen im Zusammenleben auftun.
